Today was a monumental step in our journey. We selected the donor we thought eligible enough to make up the second half of our child/children’s DNA.
We thought the process would be much more difficult, but once we knew, we knew. We have essentially been looking at donors for the last year-more seriously within the last two months. But even when I would find a donor I liked, I’d inevitably find things I disliked, too. Same scenario would play out for Eri, too. And, inevitably, sometimes we would just completely disagree among the two of us.
About a week ago we found our donor, and for days we kept looking-just to see if we’d find anything/anyone better. Ultimately, the following donors were only compared to the one we ended up choosing. We know this step is a huge one. We also know that it might raise questions from our child later in life. We desperately wanted to choose an open donor when we started this process, but sadly, our hearts landed on someone whose heart may not be in the same place as ours long term. Our kiddos will still be able to obtain information about him, and they can request to contact him, and later he may change his mind…but ultimately, he doesn’t have to. We are hopeful that the pretty excessive amount of information we have on him will suffice when the time arrives.
We are one step closer to meeting our babies, and our hearts could literally explode with gratitude, joy, excitement, and love.
We are eternally grateful to our donor helper, and we hope one day our children will be too.
Next stop-uterin testing!